Wednesday, December 23, 2009

I am a 14 y/o Christian boy who needs advice on how to go up and talk to this girl at my church?

OK,I am a 14 year old Christian boy.I sorta have a crush o this girl at my church.I never see her without her friends.How do I go up and talk to this girl(Im afraid to)I am a 14 y/o Christian boy who needs advice on how to go up and talk to this girl at my church?
Walk up to her and say, ';Jesus Cah-riist you are beautiful!';I am a 14 y/o Christian boy who needs advice on how to go up and talk to this girl at my church?
Well don't be life is about taking chances and living it to the fullest of your ability. Tell her at the beginning of youth or regular services that you want to talk to her alone after church and if she does come then tell her that you like her. But to make it better I would tell her in front of all her friends girls like that and you are saying that I like you and I don't care who knows. Just stop being afraid take that chance and it will tend to work out in the end. I hope you the best!!
Well first off, know her name, and if you do, seeing how you go to church with her and shes always with friends, and you said your scared to walk up to her try walken up to her with a friend or two of your own, that will make it seem less scary. And smile be polite and talk to her, girls love it if you talk to them if you dont and you act shy they kinda feel like your not to intrested in them, trust me i know im a 16 year old girl, and i love it if a guy talks to me otherwise i feel like hes not to into me. And after the ice is broken and you two have talked, get to know her, ask what kind of music she is into, what hobbies she has, fav color, anything. and once you two know each other well, one day be like can i talk to you for a min, and kinda tell her you have a lil crush, or do this when its time to leave and go home, just write a lil note sayen, i think you are very pretty and i would like to get to know you more, would you like to go to the movies one day with me or something, and write me a note back or call me and give her your number.





well i hope this helps a lil bit


good luck buddy =]
This is a problem if she is with her friends.


If she wasn't with her friends, then I would go up to her and say ';Hi';, because she is christian then she probs will say ';hi'; back. If she doesn't then I wouldn't consider her being christian.


It is scary however go for it.





If she is with her mates, it can be a different story and you can look like a prat (sorry).


After church, at the back of the church where you exit, see if you can get up to her. She may be without her mates then, or try and get on the end next to her.


Whilst walking say ';Hi'; and go from their.





If she laughs, or ignores you, or looks at you funny then she is not worth it and not christian at that.


You deserve better!





She probs will be soft in the heart and understand.





If she smiles and says ';Hi'; back then you got to work up from there.


Ask her - her name. Then age, and then say which school she goes too, and then maybe ask her what she likes doing.


Then if you like anything she likes doing build up on that by saying ';Oh I like that too'; and then say ';Do you wanna meet up sumtym'; at the park?? She may say yer, and bring her friends, don't worry - this is excellent if you get this far.





After so long of seeing her 4 or 5 times, and chatting with her mates, then ask her out on a proper date. Go for it. The worst she can say is no =]





Good luck!!!!
you are a christian? Maybe you can examine your feelings, what you refer to as a ';crush'; can you explain the scripture, ';it is good for a man not to touch a woman'; just thinking that maybe being christian, you might want to really examine your feelings, and not base what you do on feelings, in chosing relationships or friends,


there is no reason to feel discouraged,at this point, it would be a good idea to examine your feelings, the girls in your congregation are aware of you, allow them to make the first move so to speak, and what does the bible say, in Christ Jesus there is no male or female, no Jew or Gentile, or Greek, think as to what you really want to do in your christian walk???
How about a serious reply folks.. instead of junk for a free 2....





Without being creepy and/or obsessive... pay attention to what she seems to have an interest in... whether she puts a lot of time into her hair, a particular item she fiddles around with, does she sing well... etc.





Use this as a starting point to get the convo going. Something like mentioning you heard her singing and complement her on how good it was... and so forth.





Also, use the fact she's always around her friends to your advantage. Approach them casually and ask a general group question. Gauge the response as either hostile or positive. If hostile... wait until you can talk to the girl without them. If positive, direct your next question/statement to the girl in question.





The trick is going to be making it obvious that she is important in some way to you but keep her wondering 'how' important. If you play shy too much she might feel that you aren't interested.





And lastly. Remember that while this may be your move, but you also need to gauge your feelings for her. What I mean is that you need to just start good casual conversation with her. If you guys do 'click' the convo will carry itself and that's all there is to it really. If it's spotty, uncomfortable, akward, and etc... than don't make things worse by prolonging it.





Hope this helps ya bud.
Does the fact that you are a christian mean that you have difficulty in talking to her normally? if not, then the point is irrelevant.


Just say ';hi'; to her and talk about the sermon or something, then once you get the gage of her ask her other stuff like her taste in music etc? I'm sure that you will have some common interests.
when she's with her friends, walk over there and ask her can you speak to alone real quick. If she's interested in what you have to say, she'll move away from them.





once you get her alone, ask her what she likes and can you have her number so the two of you can talk later.





you need alot of confidence for this tho.
well I would tell you (being a christian too) that during youth activities (assuming you have a youth group) you could just nonchalantly walk over to her and start a conversation... yeah it MIGHT be awkward AT FIRST, but after a while I think she'll get a clue that you like her and THEN things will roll a LOT more smoothly
i can understand u being scared, but all u gotta do is just go up to her and be urself. girls like it when a guy goes out of their way to talk to them. just start a casual conversation about what she thought of the sermon or just anything..but dont be pushy and BE UR SELF!!!


good luck
well look at her and hope she looks back and if not get one of your friens to talk to her for you and to tell her that you like her.
it is wicked to talk to girls





The Lord our Heavenly Father will smite thee for the sin of lust.


She is a painted jezebel who leadeth thee into temptation and lust is on thy countenance.
You have to over come your fear first . Amp yourself up to do it . Do it before someone else does . Good Luck ! Pray about it .
God will give you the courage.





If you don't feel it, that means it's a No-No from God.
Just walk up to her and say ';hey, sl*t - what up?'; she'll be all over you.
go alone with your friends and steal her away....while yuor friends talk to her friends.....I you have any during church time..
you should just go up there and talk to her...if you both are in church, you really should have nothing to be scared of
Hi, how do you find what the pastor had said earlier? What do you think?........................
';god told me to say hi to you...what do you think i should do?';
ask her is it ok to be attracted to u cause am totally mad about u

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